50 Shades of Grey
Next time you feel bad about your work, remember this shit got published
@Harry_Styles: Hey @edsheeran …I’m a fanboy. And you definitely didn’t make me wear this.
if they’re going to talk about fanfiction in a bad light why not talk about how After romanticizes emotional abuse and manipulation and how 50 Shades of Grey is a bad representation of BDSM when it ignores safe words and leaves the girl uninformed but yeah some thirteen year olds writing something they enjoy is SO much worse
After does NOT romanticise emotional abuse, it fucking shows that no matter how fucked up someone is, there’s still hope for happiness you beanbag!
verbal/emotional abuse definition: Saying or doing something to the other person that causes the person to be afraid and/or have lower self esteem. Trying to manipulate or control the person’s feelings or behaviors.
- name-calling and put downs
- insulting the person or their family (he insults her mom all the time and probably Tessa too)
- yelling and screaming (do i even need to list a specific time)
- harming or threatening harm to the person or the person’s friends, family, pets, and property (Harry beats up Zayn)
- making unwanted comments/sending unwanted messages of a sexual nature to the person
- intimidating the person
- embarrassing the person in front of others
- spreading negative rumors about the person (when Harry calls the landlord or whoever about the apartment Tessa wants to move in to and tells her that Tessa is a drug addict or something, that she brings home people every night. i dont remember specifics but i know that he ruins her chances.)
- preventing the person from seeing or talking to friends and family (THIS. HAPPENS. ALL. THE. TIME. SHE’S LITERALLY NOT ALLOWED TO SEE ZAYN OR THE GIRL WHO WAS HER ROOMMATE FOR A WHILE)
- telling the person what to do
- making the person feel responsible for the violence or abuse (she’s angry that he’s yelling at her and he says that she shouldn’t make him so mad)
- stalking (he was a bit creepy at the beginning idk if i’d say stalking tho)
- making the person feel guilty about wanting to leave the relationship by talking about the abuser’s hard life and how alone and abandoned the abuser will feel if left
- sharing sexual or nude pictures of the person that were given in confidence (the sheets. not technically in this category, but the fucking sheets.)
okay. so i took all those examples from my notes from the dating abuse unit we did in school this past year. I didn’t put in any that weren’t relevant to After, out of 26 examples 15 applied to After. And I didn’t even read the whole thing. This is only emotional/verbal abuse, there are a few, admittedly very few, examples of physical abuse.
And yes, this stuff is romanticized. This story teaches it’s young readers that a relationship like this one is desirable. It teaches readers that if their partner treats you this way, if they cry and beg for you back and say that they’re sorry then you should take them back. It teaches it’s readers that if this happens repeatedly that it’s okay. He manipulates her over and over and over again, and nearly each time she leaves him, he feels bad and cries, and she takes him back. It’s a toxic story with a young audience. Harry is emotionally abusive and manipulative and the fact that he’s based on Harry Styles and the fact that everything ends up happy (I assume, I never finished) is what romanticizes it.
Also, thank you for calling me a beanbag. Beanbags are soft and wonderful and everyone loves them.
I’m freaking out I don’t usually reblog this stuff but this is like incredible
If you’re worried your children are going to get their self-esteemed destroyed by the image of Barbie then maybe you’re not parenting right. Its called ‘teach your child life values and lessons’ which is a pretty normal thing parents should do.
oh god seriously this post again how much fucking bullshittery can you find in here
1. “Sure, representation is great and it would be nice to see more of a variety in body types”???? SORRY, representation is not “great”, it is fucking necessary, especially for young children. Acting like more representation would be “great” is basically saying a big fuck-all to poc, (EDIT: I meant to write disabled people, not able-bodied people), fat people, etc. and you’re basically saying that representation isn’t THAT important? The representation of my fat body is a second-hand, non-important issue here, as it always is for non-fat people, but I just need to sit down and forget about it, I guess! I guess you can “Be who you wanna be” as long as you’re a thin white able-bodied cis woman!!
2. Interesting how this post in no way mentioned how non-white Barbies are treated/their availability/the racist way Barbie has and does treat non-white dolls. Like, the image above of how ~empowering~ Barbie is exclusively shows all white dolls, too??? As long as we as white women get to have a super “empowering” doll, who cares about anyone else, amirite?
3. The point is actually made in the post— “dolls are dolls”. You’re not “judging her” for her femininity or body. Barbie is an idea, a brand, a carefully thought out market. She is not a fucking person, so, sorry, no, judging her is not some ~horrible feminist act~. Plus, acting like “dolls are dolls and people are people” completely negates how media and the representation we see around us as children is a huge factor in how people internalize oppressive self hatred??
4. Barbie totally reinforces the idea that you have to be conventionally attractive, white, able-bodied, and follow rigid ideas of traditional femininity/gender roles to be of worth. The fact that you can “wear designer shoes while you do it” is a part of misogyny and oppression. If you’re a woman and making strides in history, apparently the fact you absolutely 100% no choice in having to represent yourself in traditional patriarchal terms to be successful/taken seriously is awesome! Go Barbie!
5. As a person who had lots of Barbies growing up, I can say she fucking definitely effected my self esteem. As a fat child, seeing this doll who was supposedly the epitome of beauty and perfection and what women are supposed to be, I did not find Barbie empowering. I did not see that she gave me these great “life lessons and values”. I used to look in the mirror and compare the things I hated most about my face and body to her, and wish that I could look like that. Barbie helps contribute to the idea that women need to be conventionally attractive to be of worth and shows young children what is expected of gender roles and patriarchal/white supremacist beauty ideals.
Stop acting like Barbie is this great ~feminist icon~ tho, and start giving a shit about representation. Fuck this post for acting like that shit isn’t important.
this is a post about how in awe i am of unpaid content creators, by which i mean fic writers and fan art artists and fanmix makers and all of the people that make a fandom deserving of that label. and this is a post about how much i love fandom communities, and how i think we should celebrate them by trying to make them better and cooler and more fun every single day.
i’ve read posts kind of like this before, posts that encourage you to review fic because fic writers work hard on it, in their spare time, with what little energy they have left over after a long day of real life. you should leave reviews to give back to the people who put so much energy into creating cool things for you to read. and these posts are good: writers love reviews, it’s true. they love knowing that their work is being read and enjoyed and thought about. they love talking about their characters and their plot lines and their sentence structure. they love knowing that what they’re posting on the internet from the quiet of their own bedroom is going out into the world and being read and appreciated by people timezones away.
that’s where community comes in. fan fic doesn’t exist in a vacuum. it’s a fan’s way of dialoguing with an original piece of fiction (or members of a boyband or players on a hockey team or what have you), and it’s a fan’s way of dialoguing with other fan fiction, too. you can’t be part of a community by yourself. you have to participate in it, contribute to it, find a corner of it and make it your own. because we create fandom ourselves, we are not limited by it. there are an infinite number of ways to participate in it. there are an infinite number of ways to shape it for you.
that’s one of the coolest things about fan fiction: it’s interactive. unlike a published novel, it’s being created as it’s posted. writers write to share their work, immediately, without the mediation of an editor, an agent, a publisher, a team of marketers. fic writers do most of that themselves. but when you get down to it, though, fan fic writers aren’t just writers. they’re fans, too. they are just as excited about fandom as you are. which means you don’t need to be intimidated by them. impressed, maybe. inspired. awed.
awed. i am really fucking awed, okay? isn’t it cool that you’re part of a community that’s producing such amazing, intellectual, individual, experimental, diverse, creative, inventive things? isn’t it cool that that community comes together online, virtually, joins together from all over the world to say, hey, we love this thing, let’s love it together? doesn’t it blow your mind? don’t you want to be a part of it? look at this: this amazing thing is happening inside your computer, inside the internet, and it’s kind of magical. it’s magical, and it’s all ours.
so don’t be a silent reader. be a loud reader. be an excited reader, a passionate reader, a surprised reader, a joyful reader. be the kind of reviewer that quotes the reader back to herself, that writes five paragraph essays on why her characters are making terrible decisions, that rides writers’ emotional roller coasters vocally and loudly. be the kind of reviewer that writers write for, the kind that makes being part of a fandom community a pleasant experience.
be the kind of community member that tries, always, to make the community better.